Responding to an Unexpected Pregnancy
Finding out that you may be responsible for an "unexpected" pregnancy can be quite a shock. Initially, you may find yourself thinking or asking yourself questions like:
- "How did this happen?"
- "Is she absolutely sure?"
- "Am I really the father?"
- "What are we going to do?"
You may also experience the following feelings:
- Shut Out
Whatever you may be initially thinking or feeling, know that you are not alone. Many men have experienced a "surprise" or "unexpected" pregnancy. Below are suggested step to take:
- Confirm the pregnancy. Missing a period does not automatically mean your partner or friend is pregnant.It is possible she is not. We provide a lab-quality pregnancy test that will show a positive or negative result with a 99% accuracy rate. If pregnant, she may qualify for a limited sonogram.
- Educate yourself on the options. There are only three: abortion, parenting and adoption. Make sure you have all the information before making a final decision.
- Show that you care. Offer your support. If possible, be involved in the decisions surrounding your partner or friend's pregnancy.
- Talk to someone. It may help for you as a couple or separately to find a third person to speak to. Seek out counseling from a professional health care provider, a pregnancy counselor, a therapist, a doctor, or a clergy person.
- Know your rights. Gather the facts and know your rights as the expectant father before responding to the situation.
- Take a paternity test. If you are in serious doubt about being the father, take the steps to have paternity testing. For more information on DNA Parentage Testing call 1-800-DNA-Center.
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